Veteran Nollywood actor, Yomi Fabiyi, has talked about why he wants to end his childless marriage to Fran, his British wife of nine years.
The actor revealed this during a recent interview with PREMIUM TIMES. While making the revelation, he said he could no longer ‘‘endure’’ his present marriage and would love to dissolve it in a bid to protect his happiness.
Mr Fabiyi married in 2012 but made history in 2016, when he emerged the Nollywood actor to disclose he had decided to divorce his wife on Instagram.
While justifying the decision then, Fabiyi, said he felt bad that many had called him a gold digger and because he could not longer cope with the distance.
Surprisingly he marked their wedding anniversary on social media with great words and exhibited hopes that they would live together under the same roof in the future few months later.
He told Premium Times that he had lived separately for nine years and he is presently holding talks with his wife and he hopes a compromise and an amicable dissolution would be reached soon.
He said: “I have not ended my current marriage but the way I see it, I deserve to be happy. We had an agreement and she did not follow through with it and it is not going to be easy to keep that kind of a distant relationship. I tried to endure but I just noticed that I might not be able to go further because we couldn’t reach a compromise. I can’t vacate my career, my career is still gathering shape so to abandon it now may be difficult for me and it is contrary to what we agreed on.
“Our agreement was that she was going to relocate down here. The kind of job she does, she can work anywhere. Unfortunately, she doesn’t feel like staying in Nigeria again and she wants me to come over but I said no. I have been travelling over but not to stay.”
He advised young and intending couples by saying from his experience, many things need to be ignored in a union because nobody and no marriage is perfect.
He said, “Marriage is an institution and of course it comes with a lot of responsibilities. Another thing I have realised about marriage is that there are some certain negatives that might come up in the course of your relationship; some of them you have to just endure till the rest of your life, if it is not life-threatening and it is not threatening your mental health. You may not like it but if it does not have any major threat like that, you just have to endure it because if you don’t, that may be the basis of your broken relationship.
“The fact is that irrespective of how much of a good person you are if you keep discarding every partner because of some excuses or some shortcomings, you will just end up being alone in your old age. That moment is the most crucial because you will now realise that no matter how strong and famous you are, if you have a broken relationship, at that point you will be alone.
“Solitude is a very serious situation. If as a young person, you can feel the pang of loneliness you need to put that into consideration because of your old age. Nobody likes to spend his or her life alone.”
Also, he spoke on infidelity and philandering scandals that rock the entertainment industry by saying he does not feel it has anything to do with the profession.
He said: “If you understand that some relationships will come and they are likely to destroy your focus, your home, your happiness and destabilize your children – if you have any and affect your job, why would you want to go into that? Even if fame attracts them to you, you must be able to find a way to avoid it.
“We are all humans and everybody can fall into temptations but it is always very important that if you take it as a duty, those things and places that if you go, can make you fall into temptations, you can always avoid them. As adults, you have rights to that. Nothing is going to be forced down your throat that you must do it.”
